Mindful spending

Spending mindfully is the practice of being intentional and aware of where your money goes, ensuring your financial choices align with your core values and long-term goals rather than fleeting impulses.Β 

Core Strategies for Mindful Spending

  • The “Pause” Method: Before any non-essential purchase, implement a mandatory waiting periodβ€”typically 24 hours for small items and up to 30 days for larger ones. This “cooling-off” period helps determine if the item is a true need or a temporary craving.
  • Identify Spending Triggers: Reflect on whether your urge to spend is driven by emotions like boredom, stress, or social pressure. Finding alternative ways to de-stress, such as exercise or a hobby, can curb “retail therapy”.
  • Add “Friction” to Purchases: Disable one-click buying on sites like Amazon and remove saved payment information from your browser. The extra steps required to check out provide a vital moment to reconsider.
  • Calculate “Life Energy”: Before buying, translate the price into hours worked. Asking, “Is this item worth 5 hours of my life?” often shifts your perspective on its value.
  • Use Physical Cash: Research suggests that handing over physical money feels more “real” than swiping a card, which can naturally reduce overspending. 

Helpful Frameworks

  • The 50/30/20 Rule: A common guideline where 50% of income goes to needs, 30% to wants (mindful fun), and 20% to savings or debt.
  • Values-Based Budgeting: Instead of just cutting costs, identify your top values (e.g., travel, health, family) and prioritize spending there while aggressively cutting what you don’t care about.
  • Zero-Sum Budgeting: Assign every single dollar a “job” at the start of the month so no money is left to be spent mindlessly. 

Here’s the problem I face …

I have spent so many of my young adult years in the wilderness, driving the back roads of the hilltowns and it’s something I really crave.

Another View Of The Hills

The thing about it is remote country like this — it’s remote.

By definition, remote means far away. Not close to the city, a long ways from work. I so want to live out in a place like this, no compromises, but I have seriously contemplate the costs of commute — the fuel, the time, winter weather, traffic, the automobiles quickly worn out and discarded.

The hell of it is, it’s not really a money thing, as I have worked hard to develop my career over the past 20 years, investing responsibly and living frugally in hope to live some day back out in the country. Moving back out to country is going to cost a hell of a lot more then my dumpy apartment or something similarly dumpy in another part of the city.

And I don’t really see much in a purpose to moving to suburban location, or an exurban location with only a few acres of land, and yuppie neighbors right next door. Why would I do that? So I could throw more money away meaningless, burning it up in tailpipe and lawn more? If I want to be rural, I want to be truly rural where I can have freedom, not be living in a subdivision with a motorized commute. It would just be stupid to do that.

In my mind, a rural suburban subdivision that smells like cow shit is really no better than living in the city.